What you're making and why a blender helps
Mayonnaise is an emulsion: oil is broken into tiny droplets and suspended in a water-based phase (egg, acid, and a little water naturally present in the egg). When the droplets are small and evenly distributed, the mayo looks lighter in color, feels thick, and stays together instead of weeping oil.
A blender helps because it creates strong shear, which is the cutting and swirling action that breaks oil into fine droplets quickly. The tradeoff is that a blender can also overwhelm the mixture if you dump the oil in too fast, so the key is controlling the oil stream until the emulsion has "caught."
Ingredients that control thickness and flavor (egg, acid, mustard, oil)
The egg is the main emulsifier. Its lecithin helps oil and water stay mixed, and starting with a room-temperature egg makes the mixture come together more predictably than a cold egg that can slow thickening.
Acid (lemon juice and vinegar) brightens flavor and helps the mayo taste less greasy. Mustard adds flavor and also supports emulsification, which is why a small amount makes the process more forgiving. Oil choice changes the final taste more than people expect: neutral oils keep it classic, while strongly flavored oils can dominate and sometimes taste bitter when blended hard.
Step-by-step blender method for a stable emulsion
The first minute is where stability is decided. Adding oil slowly at the start gives the egg and mustard time to surround and stabilize each new droplet. If you rush this stage, the oil droplets stay too large, and the mixture can look loose or separate.
Jar circulation matters with thick mayo. If your blender tends to leave ingredients stuck above the blades, stop and scrape down once early on, then continue. Keeping the mixture moving through the blade path is more important than using a higher speed, which can warm the mayo and make it taste slightly flatter.
Variations and fixes (aioli, spicy mayo, too thin, too thick, broken mayo)
For garlic aioli without bitterness, use one small clove and grate it finely so it disperses quickly. Blend only briefly after adding garlic. Long blending can make garlic taste harsh, and using too much raw garlic can overpower the mayo as it sits.
If the mayo is too thin, keep blending and add oil in small amounts until it thickens. If it is too thick, blend in water 1/2 teaspoon at a time. If it breaks (looks oily and separated), start over in a clean jar with 1 egg yolk or 1 tablespoon mustard, then slowly blend the broken mayo into it in a thin stream, treating it like the "oil" you are adding.